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How To Achieve Your First Orgasm

By Sarah Stefanson

[Intimacy & Sexuality]

Never had an orgasm? You’re not alone. Sarah Stefanson tells you how to remedy the situation.

I am appalled and saddened by the number of my female friends and acquaintances who admit to me that they have never had an orgasm. These are confident, capable and gorgeous women in their 20s and beyond, who for one reason or another, have never managed to climax satisfactorily. Unfortunately, this is a lot more common than most people think. Most often, it’s an issue of education. Many women are not well-acquainted with their own bodies and sexuality and therefore, are unable to achieve orgasm.

What’s Up Doc?

First of all, make sure there is nothing physically wrong preventing you from climaxing. One of my girlfriends has regular yeast infections which make any kind of play down below a less than pleasant endeavour. Other conditions such as vaginitis (a broad term to describe various kinds of inflammations of the vaginal mucous) and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) may be preventing you from properly enjoying sensual touching of your vaginal area. If you have symptoms such as burning, itching or discharge, see your doctor to straighten this out before you continue. It should feel good to touch your genitals, not uncomfortable or painful.

The Myth of Penetration

Many women and men still believe that women should be able to regularly achieve orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. Consequently, women begin to feel like there is something wrong with them, and their partners tend to feel like failures. In reality, a majority of women are not able to orgasm through penetration alone.

The clitoris is the only organ designed purely for sexual pleasure and its pea-size shape has more nerve endings in it than the entire penis. If you are not already acquainted with your clitoris, now is the time to start making friends. Most women who have regular orgasms accomplish them through stimulation of the clitoris, so this is a good place to start. Orgasms caused by penetration, g-spot massage and anal stimulation are all possible, but if you’re just starting out, concentrating on the clit is your best bet.

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